On November 12, 2013 I had the pleasure of hearing author
Michael Lewis speak as part of The Florida Forum, a speech series to generate donates
for a children’s hospital. As expected, he offered an informative and comedic
narrative that revealed information surrounding his motivations as an author, anecdotes
about his texts, and finally his upbringing. It was the latter that struck me
most, for Lewis and the moderator of the conversation brought up a 2004 article
that appeared in The New York Times
Magazine entitled: “Coach Fitz’s
Management Theory.” The article details the trials and tribulations encountered
by Lewis’ iconic high school baseball and basketball coach, and how the coach
was struggling to adapt to the new breed of children, and at the time was
facing termination for methods deemed too harsh by a small group of influential
parents at the private school. If you haven’t read it, please do, it is worth
the fifteen minutes.
While I had never read the piece, I quickly found it, and
gave it a good read. It struck home. As a teacher and coach working in a
similar environment, I wanted to understand the situation—what had happened to
make an icon, one who alumni groups were fundraising to name a new athletic
facility after (as well as give a place to display the man’s numerous athletic achievements
made in the name of the school) expendable? What it came down to was a very
similar message to what Lewis spoke about in his speech that night—overprotection.
We as parents, we as society, insulate our young against failure, feeling
failure is, well a failure. If our child doesn’t get the grade we feel he
should have, we did something wrong, not the child, and thus somebody needs to
pay. This coach had called students out on their individual failures in order
for both the individuals and the team to understand their lack of commitment. A
few kids had been offended—they never fail—and the ball was set in motion.
I see such moments in the classroom every day. A student chooses
not to read “The Tempest” or Candide.
So said student fails to perform on his assessments, is unable to produce an
intelligent and coherent piece of writing, and thus his parents are sent into a
whirlwind over the how’s and why’s and the blames. Usually, when the dust
settles, the emails are written, the phone calls are made, they see the light:
little Johnny was supposed to read, he decided that reading was a boring alternative
to Twitter or Facebook or Snapchat or YouTube, so Johnny didn’t read. Thus Johnny
failed. This fact may be unacceptable to some, but it is the truth. Our layer
of protection, with parents hovering just above, attempts to shield this
failure. According to this logic, these children should feel strong at all
times, avoiding an instance where their self-esteem can be chiseled away.
Lewis validated these ideas by citing how his children are
involved in two softball leagues—one that doesn’t keep score, the “sweet league”
where everyone wins at least half of their games, and one that is about winning
and more accurately emulates real life. He sees the benefit in both, but as his
article and speech mention, society is now running from the latter. His coach,
Coach Fitz, had struggled to connect with a society more focused on fun than
work, one that lacked the understanding that hard work leads to the very
moments where fun can be had, and that in order to live a full, complete life,
one must understand life is not a party. Spring Break might have to be skipped,
ski trips eschewed, if one is to find commitment. There are days you will have
to work, and work, by definition, is hard.
As a coach, I have encountered the same moments. Students
are given a chance to travel the world, visit another country, and have a great
experience. Yet, they will miss a ton of practice, and while they can run on
their own a coach knows they are not likely to. Thus the student forgoes hard
work, needed work, and later on, when they are to perform athletically, they do
not. The missed time added up, detracted from their performance, and thus led
them to failure. They took the failure hard, sought reasons for it, but refused
to face that they themselves had caused it. Their lack of commitment created
failure, their search for instant gratification did as well.
What was fascinating about Lewis’ speech, is that while
talking to a banker, he applied similar lessons to Wall Street and Too Big to
Fail Banks. These institutions had shields, whether purposeful or not, to
protect them from failure. The vast majority of the institutions continued on
unscathed while the common man suffered. The problem, as Lewis iterates in his
article back in 2004, is that to the rest of us, to most everyone, is that
failure is frequent. We had to fall off our bikes in order to learn how to ride
them. We had to get dirty, to practice sliding, in order to slide into third
base properly. If we never fall, if we never fail, we fail to learn. The books
remain unread, the miles not run, and life goals never fully achieved.
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